Do you know one of the questions I get asked all the time yet dread the most?
“Who do you admire?”
I hear it and I’m a deer in headlights, every time because I don’t admire people. I respect, love, adore, and am humbled by many, but I don’t even admire the people I’d set myself on fire for.
Because admiring is like watching. It’s not active enough for me and I don’t do it well. I do listen well, as long as there’s learning, helping, sharing, or some other sort of kumbaya.
I’m loyal to a fault, but am not the friend with whom you want to share the same ole woe-is-me-but-I’m-never-going-to-do-anything-about-it story. For that, I’d be your LAST call.
I’m the get-your-big-girl-pants-on friend. I bet J. Lo is, too. That’s why she’d crush it online because she’s undaunted and willing to do what needs to be done and say what needs to be said.
Even when she ran with P. Diddy, she still managed to let her light shine. Sexy, sultry, and “acting like she just don’t care”, she sauntered down the red carpet in a dress made from American Express cards.
She probably yawns at Lady Gaga, thinking, “Been there, done that.”
Figuring out who you are is important. Even if you do many things well, ask yourself, “What is the one thing I know more about than anyone?” Share that consistently. If you are unsure how to optimize what you are sharing, that’s okay, too.
Modeling is good. However, stealing content or borrowing style without props is BAD.
She’s Genuine but Compassionate
I have clients, partners, and friends who are some of the biggest names in media, so trust me when I say I DO know exactly what it takes to create good TV (I use the term loosely).
But the night on American Idol when Jennifer had to tell the contestant whose wife suffered a tragic accident and is now a shadow of her former self, that it was the end of his time on the show, then broke down in tears and left the stage, I have to admit, with a lump in my throat, I almost admired her.
That was a REAL moment for her. Did the producers capitalize? Absolutely.
Did Jennifer? No.
I’ve not seen a single moment when she wasn’t genuine – and I’m sure breaking young hearts was much more than she bargained for.
You need to be real.
If you’re funny, be funny. If you’re angry, be angry. Happy? I’m sure you get the picture. Say what you do and do what you say.
She Has Conviction with Grace
I love watching her give opinions (except when she wears the dark red lipstick. Pink Jen – you rock the pink gloss – red’s too much).
It’s never about her – ever. Has she ever mentioned one show, movie, book? No.
From watching American Idol, I know more about Randy Jackson than I ever wanted to, and while I’m a Steven Tyler fan, I only understand half of what he says (so does he).
But Jennifer? She’s present.
Every word is filled with sincere emotion, radiating with conviction. She comes across as someone who can go to bed thinking, “They went home, but it wasn’t because I didn’t do everything I could to help.”
Not everyone will apply what you teach, and not everyone will like you. Quite frankly, you might not like what you hear or whom you meet. Even if you’re fired up about something, have grace. Even a little goes a long way.
Unfortunately, some people mistake originality for snarky. But J. Lo pulls off the you-don’t-want-to-push-baby-in-a-corner act and still makes me smile. That’s what keeps me (and many others) coming back.
Damn, she makes me want to put a dress on.
Seriously – she is the poster child for sexy. If I was a man, she’d be at the top of my list. Yet as pleasing as she is to the eye, that’s not what makes J. Lo sexy.
Sexy isn’t about glamour shots, low-cut blouses, or bikinis in avatars on Twitter or Facebook (really, ladies, come ON). I’ve known many beautiful people who couldn’t spell sexy, much less pull it off.
If you know who you are, where you are going, and can confidently translate your voice into words that inspire people to do more or be more than even they thought they could be? Oh yeah, they’ll think you are sexy.
New ways of solving a problem or sharing information in a way that feels different and resonates, well, that’s sexy, right? Truly being sexy is about charisma that comes through, even online, by being who you are for all the right reasons, putting your agenda where it belongs – in a meeting on a piece of paper.
What you want to get done should never be at someone else’s expense, or be more important to you than who you are, and quite frankly J. Lo’s persona on American Idol, is exactly who I want to be when I grow up.
I’m here to shake things up, to make an impact, and to help the little guy win the big fight by participating in the conversation and contributing where I can.
And I’m starting to believe that’s what J. Lo is trying to do with American Idol.
It may not be why she signed up, but baby, she’s in it to win it, and she’s got my vote!
I think she’s the real American Idol – a sexy, feminine, and powerful woman, a loving wife and mother, and apparently a real champion of the underdog.
Go, J. Lo!! You make me want to be a better blogger, and you’re definitely someone I don’t mind my daughter idolizing.
Anyone with me?
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