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The Key To Higher Profits: Perfectionism or Generosity?

by Lori Taylor · 6 comments

social media consultant, apologyHow do you handle mistakes?

Not the ones made by others, even though those sometimes feel as if they are all about you, I get it.  But for today, I’m referring to the stumbles you make, especially the face plants.  

How do you weather the storm?

You know the one blowing around in the left side of your brain, constantly barraging you with all the should’ves, would’evs and could’ves in every single minute?

Does your monday morning quarterback never shut up even on Sundays?

I know my inner critique is chatty – to say the least.

And while no one would accuse me of being a perfectionist, it would seem applicable with the amount of joy I miss in moments.   My inability to stay in the present is derived mainly from wondering too quickly, before I’ve even celebrated the current victory, how I could do it better next time.

(Damn you direct response!)

I can’t even eat an apple without quietly wondering to myself, “Is this a good apple? Is it the best apple? I wonder if that Farmer’s market has better apples than this. I need to get apples for the horses…can’t forget that.” It really doesn’t take much to have me stamping all over the perfection of the present moment with crazy chaotic commenting leading me to thoughts of future opportunities I don’t want to miss.

This video just couldn’t have said it any better folks!  

It’s a must see – easily revealing what’s keeping baby in a “corner” is nothing more than you – and your perception of you. (Or at least that’s how I felt.)

The closer I get to the big win, the more I feel stuck between “0 and 1” as noted in this video.

Yes my life has become about “the sequence of getting things done”.

No I’m not “fascinated with the rock” and I want to be!

And yes, I’ve met his “cheese monster” he so eloquently brings to life in this video with his carefully chosen, yet seemingly carefree words. (Ingenious – brilliant – superbly done!)

And most of all, while I’ve never believed I was the “sole author of my victories” –  I’m great at doing damage to me by being so willing to blame myself for defeats. Which is why I want to step up and say publicly,  “I’m sorry, Lori and I forgive you for trying so hard to be perfect even when you suck at it”.  

(Please feel free to leave your own public apologies to yourself below – it feels great!)

The truth is while I’m generous to a fault with others failures, I lack the emotional resources to show myself the same empathy and compassion.  Sound familiar?  I thought so.

So thank you my dear friend Tamar Geller for sending this to me on a Monday morning, so I may own it and cherish the wisdom spiced up by incredible wit.

And thank you dear friend and reader…

May you enjoy this awesome message so you can carry it with you in all those moments when you’re unable forward.  The next time you’re drowning in desperation, desolation and depression derived from feelings of failing everyone in your life, may this video remind you to simply say you’re sorry to you every time you feel as if you’re being “enough”.

Remember to move forward knowing, “the pain I sometimes feel from the critique from others is not always their intention”.

And every now and then, when that criticism is fueled by the rare but actual “evil intent”, may insight take the opportunity to intrude on the insanity, allowing you to recognize the futility of giving those thoughts energy.

Please grant us all  the strength to know exactly when to hit the “block button.”

Thank you dear “ZeFrank” for filling my soul with purpose reminding me of the thrill of the FILD. Amen brother!

(That’s worth the watch alone – you’ll love it!)

So what are you waiting for – watch this video and tell me…

What did you love the most and what do you want to say to YOU after watching – please leave a comment below.

And if you were filled with a bit of FILD then  help me make my apology as public as possible and sharing this post with your frinds.

(I have a hallucination a lot of healing could take place today with some help from you, this quirky video and a bit of honesty from me writing in this post.)

But then again, what do I know?

Lori Taylor

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Michelle Ruble May 21, 2012 at 11:17 am

BRILLIANT – and Dear Michelle, don’t beat yourself up because you couldn’t finish everything in the 24 hours you have…. really, the world will still turn!!!!

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Sean Platt May 21, 2012 at 11:58 am

Awesome Lori! Loved that video. Might’ve been the best three minutes of my day so far!

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James M May 21, 2012 at 4:00 pm

I love Ze Frank, and hope you get the chance to watch all of his videos that he releases. His TED talks are brilliant, too.

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Lori Taylor May 22, 2012 at 7:11 am

Go Michelle Go. You got this!
Lori R. Taylor
Founder & CEO Of REV Media Marketing llc
2012 Forbes Top 50 Social Media Power Influencer

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Lori Taylor May 22, 2012 at 7:12 am

Fantastic- thanks for pointing me in the right direction.
Lori R. Taylor
Founder & CEO Of REV Media Marketing llc
2012 Forbes Top 50 Social Media Power Influencer

Let’s Connect
Get Your Buzz On At My Blog Social Caffeine< http://www.lorirtaylor.com>
Twitter/lorirtaylor<
http://twitter.com/lorirtaylor>
Facebook/loriraylenetaylor<
http://facebook.com/loriraylenetaylor>
LinkedIn/in/lorirtaylor<
http://linkedin.com/in/lorirtaylor>

“Be in service to someone for something every day of your life!”

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The JackB May 22, 2012 at 10:33 am

I have to remind myself to enjoy the journey and not focus on the destination. But more than anything else is the reminder to be kind to myself about mistakes.

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